Morgan
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Post by Morgan on Jun 19, 2021 12:23:07 GMT -8
I have had a few of you ask for a piece of mine. I found on that I wrote for the OC87 Recovery Diaries. You can find it at the following linkMorgan
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Morgan
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Post by Morgan on Jul 5, 2021 11:24:06 GMT -8
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Morgan
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Hi guys. I have been a member of IG since 2012, but have been busy pursuing other projects.
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Post by Morgan on Jul 5, 2021 11:25:43 GMT -8
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krathyn
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A Bit About Me: Love this online forum.
There are a few of us, we are sometimes fused and often looking on as one, and sometimes we separate for the good of the whole.
Love animals; love public transit; have a special fluffy cat McKenna who is my avatar.
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Post by krathyn on Jul 5, 2021 15:33:18 GMT -8
I was able to read and thoroughly enjoy both and thank you for your insights. The whole idea of a "victim mentality" is common. Most people go through it. I read things on the board here which are posted from this mentality often enough. We all need someone to give us those pushes to get out of those victim mentalities. The best revenge is to live better than your abusers could have ever thought you had the capacity to live. And there are helps along the way: therapy, psychiatry, spiritual endeavors, friendship. Personally, although I do not drink, I found the AA 12 steps and 12 traditions helpful. Use whatever you can-you aren't pulling yourselves up by your bootstraps. You have help and you only need to find what works.
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teamme
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Post by teamme on Jul 6, 2021 9:39:25 GMT -8
I had a bumper sticker on my car for years, “Living well is the best revenge.”
Excellent article, Morgan. Mind if I ask my t to read it so we can talk about the subject?
For me/us moving out being a victim was… don't’ know how to describe it. I think Uncle Keith, Mark and John kind of steered me and the others in the direction of living and thriving without us really realizing it till one day we just were. Still slip back, though.
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sweetpea
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A Bit About Me: 54 year old female with 20 alters in the system. Diagnosed in 2000 as d.i.d. non switching. I live in the Midwest.
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Post by sweetpea on Jul 7, 2021 19:17:00 GMT -8
This was an amazing article and well written too! How do you know if you are stuck in victim mentality? I would like very much to get revenge on Sweetpea! If she wasnt so weak we would not have been abused! She was too short and small and she has an INFJ personality which I hate! Sweetpea,I think, thinks I am stuck in denial. INFJ persons are misunderstood a lot. And I had to suffer for it!
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teamme
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Post by teamme on Jul 8, 2021 4:45:25 GMT -8
Blaming sweetpea for being a victim is not ok. A child is not ever at fault for being abused. It is denial, I agree, to blame the body or others in the system for what happened is a way to be in denial. The abuser is the one who needs to be held accountable and be at fault. Only!
I tested as an INFJ, too, I think.
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Morgan
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Post by Morgan on Jul 9, 2021 13:42:08 GMT -8
Sweetpea is not to blame at all for the treatment she endured as a child.
Anyone who wants to show my work to their t is highly welcome. I am humbled that you want to and thrilled. Morgan
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